Episode 8
Co-Regulation for Autistic & PDA Parents: Essential Tips for Wellbeing & Connection
In this episode, I’m diving into how I teach the first foundational pillar of Attuned Parenting — parent well-being and co-regulation. As a neurodivergent parent myself, I understand how overwhelming it can be to support a child when you’re already running on empty. But here’s the thing: you are the foundation. When we focus on our own regulation first, we can better co-regulate with our children.
In this episode, I talk about:
- Why more tools often don’t create real change for autistic and PDA children
- The importance of parent well-being and how it leads to co-regulation
- Why nervous-system safety comes first — and why behaviour-first approaches are doing more harm than good
- Unmasking and shifting away from societal expectations (if you’re a neurodivergent parent or feel you could be neurodivergent- this episode is for you!)
- How co-regulation transforms parenting and helps you show up for your child with more clarity and intention
Episode Summary:
Parenting an autistic or PDA child is hard — especially when you’re already feeling depleted. In this episode, I talk about the foundational pillars of attuned parenting that can make all the difference: parent well-being and co-regulation.
You’ll learn:
- Why traditional strategies often backfire and don’t work for neurodivergent children
- Why parent regulation comes first before any co-regulation with your child can happen
- How unmasking and understanding our own triggers helps us show up for our children with more clarity and patience
- The 4-step framework for co-regulation: Pause → Observe → Connect → Support (I’ll share a preview of this in the episode!)
Takeaway:
Ask yourself: “Am I regulated enough to support my child right now?”
This small, powerful question is the first step to shifting your approach to parenting and co-regulation.
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Explore these topics:
- ⚡ Regulation & Safety: Understand why PDA is a Nervous System Response.
- 🗣️ PDA Foundations: Master the shift to Declarative Language & Safety.
- 🏫 Education & Advocacy: Navigating masking and School Refusal.
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